Nahhh not for me. It kinda annoying how 90% of girls ive been with have it shaved. Its whatever she wants like shes a grown woman its natural. def not a turn off. plus landing strip is +++
Diary of a Mad Mixed Woman
A natural Black mixed woman on this continious journey to find myself while facing the daily misconceptions surrounded by my shade, my hair, the way I laugh, what I wear, what I say basically who I am. A Black woman trying to connect to her past, showing her appreciation daily for it working to reach my highest potiental. I love being Black. I love the culture, the history, the fight that runs through my veins, comes from my lips, displayed in the sway of my hips, is thought in my mind, is felt in my words, seen through my eyes, sensed through my touch. Struggling to make changes in my life and focus on the future, by working hard in the present and not dwelling on the past. I am an Ambitious Black mixed woman on this NATURAL journey called life doing the things I love, being myself and not being apologetic for how I was made and who I am and who I will become.
Basketball. Hooper. Baller. Jazz. Poet. History. Words. Hip-Hop. Music. Natural Hair. Healthy Living. Strong Existence. Non-conformist. Child. Adult. Wise. Stupid. 19. Old. Young. Mother is Black American. Father German mostly and Jewish. Also Finnish and Polish. Insecure. Confident. Friend. Woman. Black. Mixed.
Trying to fight this battle of getting older. Using every year to get better, to mature, yet retain the youth I feel I am losing.
I AM SO HIP, EVEN MY ERRORS ARE CORRECT.
100% intelligent Black child.
Ahhh Dairy of a Mad Mixed Woman.
Peace & Blessings.
To shave or not to shave
It recently came to my attention that many boys find it to be unattractive or perhaps disgusting if a woman does not shave HER vagina. I do have many personal opinions on this, however I want to know what yall think.
To me it should not matter at all if she does or not but also it is her personal choice to shave or not.
What are you thoughts on this subject? Does a woman need to shave HER VAGINA, why or why not?
To shave or not to shave
Today it came to my attention that for some boys it is an issue if a woman does not shave HER vagina. What are your thoughts?
A woman has a choice and it really should not matter. Her vagina did not just grow health simply “because” or so we would have another burden to deal with.
Is it nasty or ugly if she does not shave HER VAGINA?
I have my personal thoughts on this but I wanna know what yall think.
I need advice A family member touched me as a child For years I shared a room with him I told no one Repressed the memory for years 10 yrs He is trying to communicate Do i forgive Do i ruin my family and tell What should i do #anonymous
Ahh ok anon I’m going to just tell you exactly how I feel on this. I think I can do that. yes you do forgive because in not doing that you are still allowing him to have power over you, to control you and he in no way deserves any of that. Also, you telling the truth about acts committed against you in no way should ruin your family. It isn’t about your family, or what they think, or how it will affect them, this about you. That will probably be one of the hardest but most necessary things you will do. You deserve to be freedom from this burden. In not saying anything to protect others, you are allowing this man to live free, without burden. But does he even deserve that. No you deserve it. You did nothing wrong. He also does not deserve to talk to you. For what? IT seems like you do want to say something, because you see how depraved of a situation it is but you fear how your family will react, you are trying to protect him and others. But think about this, and don’t take this the wrong way…it is a possibility that he has, is currently, or will in the future do this to someone else simply because he feels that freedom to do it. He has been getting away with it. He doesn’t think he will face any consequences. You know what it is like to be sexually abused…but you got through it and grew stronger. Someone out there is battling with this also. You are not alone. But you have to use that strength and make those who have committed wrong face the consequences of their actions. Forgiveness and speaking out will really free you. Carrying that much burden around is not healthy. I’m not sure what gender you are, I dont want to just automatically assume female but in the first place you shouldn’t have been sharing a room with him, period. I do have more questions I’d like to ask you and if you every need to talk just hmu, I am definitely willing to help in anyway can. You ‘re a mature person, help someone who is not at that point yet and could possibly not reach that point…unless they see a strong example in front of them.If you don’t mind me asking how old were you when this started, how long did it last and how old r u now?
"But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up. Forgive but don’t forget, girl, keep your head up."
When people play games, men issues, loneliness, insecurity, and everything between
I’m honestly not the type to seek attention and this post is merely just for the sake of ranting and spilling my feelings. I am experiencing what one would call loneliness. It is not because I am craving to be with someone. I am in this constant war with myself. Always battling my many insecurities. At this point in time one of my main insecurities with men. My dealings with men since birth have been terribly messed up and were definitely at no fault of my own; not something I asked for. Males are very unfamiliar territory for me. I have, and continue to shy away from them. However, what is contributing to the loneliness I am current facing is the fact that I let one in, and let them stay too long. I want to say it was the wrong one to let in but then something in me does not feel that way. I recall the words of one of my favorite artists Lianne la Havas- “Love is not blind, it is deaf and it is dumb”. Let me try to describe this male I speak of. I have never met someone like him. He has constantly played games with me. Yet we have the best conversation, can talk about anything and everything. He helped me through some difficult times. I exposed many parts of myself to him, something I have never done for anyone.He knew that. I cried to him. Laughed with him. I opened up in a way I never have before (I am literally sobbing writing this right now). Told him things I never planned on telling anyone. Constantly put up with his b.s. Forgave him. Cried over him. Everything. And for someone who was not even willing to do the same for me. I did something I never did before: compared my self to other females. It is amazing what happens when you allow someone to have power over you, especially someone who does no deserve it. It is amazing how you can allow someone else’s actions and words to have power over you. These things he would say just left me always questioning myself. Not only because I am insecure and have issues (yes issues) with men, but because I was not ready to be in any types of dealings with men. I have many unresolved problems that I needed to figure out first. I was not secure enough with myself to accept the attention from someone else. If I’m not even confident with myself in any aspect how can I begin to believe the words from someone else, especially a man. I sit here contemplating if any of it was real. I mean I can say that he has always come back. But what does that even mean? Hmm oh possibly that things with the person he really wants to be with sometimes are bad so he comes running back to me to get his mind off it. That perhaps he just uses me as a distraction. But what if he doesn’t come back this time, and why is it that he is always leaving anyways. Is it me? Immaturity? He wants to live out his young manhood now and not worry about a relationship at this point?
“You look beautiful” “I mean what I’m saying 100%” “I can only show you with my actions” “I like you all b.s. aside. Sorry Rikki if I was playing games but that’s what’s real”
“cause your always the one I seem to compare people to”
“I’m being real. I want tour in my life” “I miss how real you are” “I miss you”
“I do mean it”
It’s things like this that leave me confused and unsure of myself. I can’t tell if the words were real or not. I tell you social networks have contributed to this mess. And add to the fact that I don’t talk to guys. I never seriously talk to anyone. Barely text nor do I do anything in person. Because I have no desire to do any of that. So the chances of me falling for him were greater, I never wanted to try to use other people to distract me from getting hurt by the one I really want. No one interests me enough, well not like he does. But I don’t know how to win in this, I’m not even sure if it is possible.
So I am in this seemingly inescapable loneliness as I watch the person I adore happy without me, I am not contributing to that whatsoever but i want to. See him on social networks. Playing basketball doing who knows what with who knows who. While I do nothing with no one. What is it I was suppose to do?
Social networks have exposed to me things that I didn’t want to know, but probably needed to. Things that hurt.
I could go on forever about this and say every detail hoping someone would tell me what to do but I’ll stop. Someone informed me that the moment you stop giving someone attention is when they really will start wanting your attention. So abscence makes the heart grow fonder? So if I ignore this fool he will take notice and begin to take his words in action? Probably not.
But for my own sanity I shall do just so. I need to focus on the many things I have on my plate. From my documentary, to my organization, to my company, events, etc etc.
That is what I shall do. Stay busy and focused on me, that should combat the loneliness.
What do you think? Say he hits me up what shouldn’t do? Any other thoughts?